So how far do you go in a quest to have children? Some folks would go to the ends of the earth and some would give up in the place where we are now.
We haven't made our final decision yet and are still open to how far we are willing to try to have children of our own. We are also still very much in a place of unknown too. Nothing has been confirmed and won't be until surgery, which won't be for a couple of months.
It is emotionally hard to deal with this whole thing. I am a little angry that my mother never told me exactly why I was a mircale baby until just a few months ago. If I had known about the difficulties there were, we would have tried much earlier for children and had more time for medicine to treat what is probably ailing me. And I am scared, what if this doesn't work out? What if we can't have kids and that's what he's really ever wanted? He's told me otherwise but what if he's just being nice?
If it's everything the doc says it is, then we are dealing with endo. This means surgery to identify it positively, medication for 3-6 months to kill off the endo and then we try. If there are other complications due to my age (almost 35), our health insurance could make us wait a year after the endo treatment to then go see a reproductive endocronologist.
Endo comes back too, so not only could we be pushing trying to have kids in my 36th or 37th year, but we could be treating the endo again and not to mention that he could end up being deployed right in the middle of the times we are supposed to be trying.
We haven't ruled out adoption but there is just something that calls us to having a child of our own and adopting the second.
So how far do you do go? And how hard do you fight? Fertility treatments can be extremely rough on a couple, so just when do you give in and go by just what nature has given you?